A few years ago, I woke up and realized suddenly, distinctly that I needed to start practicing self-care in a more consistent manner. You see I’d been working on our Healing Complex Kids Warrior Mom’s Pajama Party Conference – and as the conference approached my energy levels were at an all-time low. I was getting by on sheer will and adrenaline. Leading up to the conference, I’d spent way too many nights working until two or three in the morning. I was reviewing the many lists and making sure we had everything in place and ready for an incredible, live changing event.
The conference was amazing. Women came from around our state of Michigan and as far away as Texas and New York and Utah. We saw women walk in tired and exhausted and by lunch time the same women were now animated and excited. They were connecting with new friends, getting pampered with a variety of pampering options, eating fabulous meals and snacks and hearing from life changing speakers and talking with more than two dozen solution providers. It was an amazing success. People left rejuvenated, and energized ready to face another day. Only I was exhausted. The many long hours getting ready for the conference had taken their toll. My voice was scratchy and I was fighting a sinus infection. After the conference I enjoyed a day of pampering with my good friend that had journeyed from Texas. It was FINALLY time for some much-needed rest for me.
And I wish I could say that I learned after the first conference. Unfortunately, it took another few years before I was able to stay healthy through the entire conference process. And through the years, I’ve learned it’s really important for me to take time to replenish my energy. I’m a raging extrovert and I enjoy being around people. When I’m tired and people exhaust me is when I know I’ve not taken care of myself and not done what I need to keep self-care a priority.
During the first few Warrior Mom Conferences I met women that had not left their child overnight in many years. The record in Michigan was ten years and a few years later, when we took the conference to Texas, I met a woman that had not left her son overnight in fourteen years. While I applaud these women’s dedication to their children, I’m reminded that self-care is actually essential for everyone’s well-being.
Self-care is important to me, especially the reminder that self-care is NOT selfish. This is an area I will be regularly writing about. I’m still a work in progress when it comes to managing my self-care and I know through my work at Healing Complex Kids that I’m not alone. Warrior Moms – moms to kids with special needs or complex medical conditions are especially prone to taking care of everyone but ourselves. This blog is my wake-up call. It’s my call to action and challenge to myself and to those reading to ensure we are making self-care a priority.
Self-care is different for everyone. I would love to hear some of your ideas for self-care. What will you do this week and this month to take care of yourself?
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