Many of us Warrior Moms, struggle with stress and feeling like we have to do everything. The consequences can be dire, because if we miss something we feel responsible for our child and their recovery.
We have a never-ending To Do list. Somehow – our individual selves – our self-care gets lost.
As I thought about self-care and realistic expectations, I was reminded of when my three children were in elementary school. I had too many balls in the air, with limited time to be there for my family and friends. My personal self-care had become laughable, as there were literally months if not years that went by with limited time to get together with friends. Life was completely out of control.
My daily expectations weren’t realistic. I kept plodding forward, treading water as I split myself into multiple pieces. Meanwhile, I felt like I wasn’t doing enough, that I had to be better or do more as a…
I didn’t realize it, but I was trying to take care of everyone but myself. I was last on the list. There weren’t enough hours in the day and I couldn’t keep up with my self-inflicted To-Do list.
I felt like I was in a race. I had to get my child better. I couldn’t let up or we would miss valuable time. Almost daily, I worked insane hours and then stayed up until the early hours of the morning doing research to make sure we weren’t missing anything.
I began struggling with sleep, which lead to sore throats and bronchitis and sinus infections. It took a while to realize I couldn’t continue at the pace I was setting.
I was working for a large corporation, managing our family medical appointments, and running a foundation. In actuality, I was tired and burning the candle at both ends to the point of exhaustion.
I missed my friends, traveling and having fun adventures. But our discretionary income and time was being spent on recovery from special needs and complex medical conditions. I was on a never-ending treadmill that few people understood.
Warrior Mom – I’m not sure where you’re at in your journey, but please listen to this. GIVE yourself some slack. Tell yourself, progress not perfection. Try to delegate, when possible.
Instead of focusing on trying to be everything and do everything – make a realistic list of what you need to get completed. And don’t forget to put yourself on your To Do list.
I have a challenge for those unused to putting self-care as a priority. Please Pick ONE thing that you will do this month for yourself. It can be specific to your health, or activities you like and enjoy – maybe something you love doing that you haven’t done in a while, or you can learn a new activity. One example, is taking time to relax and breathe a couple times a day – the deep breaths that fill your lungs full; or taking some short walks outside in nature. You can pick up a new hobby or make the effort to get together with a friend you’ve been missing.
It’s time to set some realistic boundaries and limits in place. Your family needs YOU, the world needs YOU and YOU need to be there for yourself.
You’ve got this – YOU can put boundaries in place that allow YOU to be available for the people in your life that YOU love, and include self-care as a gift for yourself.
I’d love to hear about what you’re doing to set boundaries in place and taking care of yourself. Please comment below on what you’re going to do over the next month for YOU.
You’ve got this!
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