I’ve recently reconnected with two friends that I’ve known for more than twenty years. Friends who’ve known me LONGER than my husband. We share experiences and memories from back in the day. Places we’ve traveled, parties, sleep-overs, too many shared meals to count, and laughing until we cried.
It’s taken twenty years of being a BUSY mom constantly on the go, dealing with learning and medical issues and special needs, for me to wake up and realize just how much I missed these women - how much we needed to be in each other’s lives.
Within the last year, I’ve lost two close friends to cancer. This crystalized my own mortality, putting it into perspective and helped me realize there are people I’ve known “forever” that I miss. People who love me for me, even when we disagree on things like politics or religion. We reminisce and start laughing and the years seem to just fall away. These are my peeps – these are the people in my tribe that I need to connect and spend time with.
My two friends and I have challenged each other to get together on a monthly basis. Our new-found challenge is relatively new, but so far, we’ve been putting dates on our calendars and gotten together once a month for the last few months. In August, I visited my first dark park with my friends and the next day enjoyed some time at the beach.
It’s taken the loss of other special women in my life for me to wake up and realize that I need to focus more on MY self-care. And while my family is important, it’s also vitally imperative to make time for friends. The friends that know and love me, or as my friend Caryn says, “Friends that know I’m the good kind of “crazy”!
Is there someone from your past or present that you find yourself missing, that you haven’t talked with or spent time with?
If so, my challenge for you is to reconnect with your friend or friends. Pick up the phone. Let them know you care about them and schedule some time, whether it’s a phone call or time in-person. Reach out to your friends and make sure you’re in each other’s lives.
One of the easiest goals you can make in this New Year is to reach out to old and new friends and keep them in your life. Please leave a comment below to let us know how you’ve reconnected with a friend or two, and how it’s helping you with your self-care journey.
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